Comments on: The importance of asking people questions http://cdixon.org/2009/10/06/ask-people-questions/ Thu, 11 Mar 2010 19:30:15 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: Sharing When Uncool http://cdixon.org/2009/10/06/ask-people-questions/comment-page-1/#comment-5742 Sharing When Uncool Thu, 29 Oct 2009 23:10:12 +0000 http://www.cdixon.org/?p=1359#comment-5742 Sir: Agreed--although one arguably has a significantly greater probability of connecting with Bruce Kovner, for example, by discussing his interest in rare books (Caxton the printer) rather than interest rates (Caxton the hedge fund)--<br><br>For those not opportunely sitting next to you (or others similarly well established in their respective fields) at dinner, how do you prefer for an interaction with you to be initiated (particularly when the questioner does not yet have the wherewithal to add value to your endeavors, whether professional or personal)? Thanks! Sir: Agreed–although one arguably has a significantly greater probability of connecting with Bruce Kovner, for example, by discussing his interest in rare books (Caxton the printer) rather than interest rates (Caxton the hedge fund)–

For those not opportunely sitting next to you (or others similarly well established in their respective fields) at dinner, how do you prefer for an interaction with you to be initiated (particularly when the questioner does not yet have the wherewithal to add value to your endeavors, whether professional or personal)? Thanks!

]]> By: Sharing When Uncool http://cdixon.org/2009/10/06/ask-people-questions/comment-page-1/#comment-4488 Sharing When Uncool Thu, 29 Oct 2009 16:10:12 +0000 http://www.cdixon.org/?p=1359#comment-4488 Sir: Agreed--although one arguably has a significantly greater probability of connecting with Bruce Kovner, for example, by discussing his interest in rare books (Caxton the printer) rather than interest rates (Caxton the hedge fund)--<br><br>For those not opportunely sitting next to you (or others similarly well established in their respective fields) at dinner, how do you prefer for an interaction with you to be initiated (particularly when the questioner does not yet have the wherewithal to add value to your endeavors, whether professional or personal)? Thanks! Sir: Agreed–although one arguably has a significantly greater probability of connecting with Bruce Kovner, for example, by discussing his interest in rare books (Caxton the printer) rather than interest rates (Caxton the hedge fund)–

For those not opportunely sitting next to you (or others similarly well established in their respective fields) at dinner, how do you prefer for an interaction with you to be initiated (particularly when the questioner does not yet have the wherewithal to add value to your endeavors, whether professional or personal)? Thanks!

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]]> By: aweissman http://cdixon.org/2009/10/06/ask-people-questions/comment-page-1/#comment-3830 aweissman Wed, 07 Oct 2009 13:55:36 +0000 http://www.cdixon.org/?p=1359#comment-3830 Yup lifted directly from the Black Swan serendipity concept Yup lifted directly from the Black Swan serendipity concept

]]> By: Ryan McKillen http://cdixon.org/2009/10/06/ask-people-questions/comment-page-1/#comment-3815 Ryan McKillen Wed, 07 Oct 2009 00:41:39 +0000 http://www.cdixon.org/?p=1359#comment-3815 Re: your #2, I often find myself playing this game. Thinking, "At some point, he/she has to take a breath and ask me a question, right?" Never ceases to amazing.<br><br>And the people who really kill me: "I've gotta get going. I feel bad we didn't have a chance to catch up on what you're up to. Next time for sure." But "next time" is never any different—still all about them.<br><br>It's a real shame. People miss out on so much! Re: your #2, I often find myself playing this game. Thinking, “At some point, he/she has to take a breath and ask me a question, right?” Never ceases to amazing.

And the people who really kill me: “I've gotta get going. I feel bad we didn't have a chance to catch up on what you're up to. Next time for sure.” But “next time” is never any different—still all about them.

It's a real shame. People miss out on so much!

]]> By: ShanaC http://cdixon.org/2009/10/06/ask-people-questions/comment-page-1/#comment-3814 ShanaC Tue, 06 Oct 2009 23:47:56 +0000 http://www.cdixon.org/?p=1359#comment-3814 I find out all sorts of useful information this way. (Such as there are still a lot of people out there made nervous by the idea of their cell phone making random calls). I tend to like listening and asking questions. It helps to feel like you have a prepared script.<br><br>Oddly, something I find out with myself and others- you tend to talk more when you are nervous. Get a list of things you want to talk about, and ask questions about it- it makes both you and the other person feel good. And it makes you feel less nervous too. It really could be anything. Just ask some questions. Even if it is about something you think could be boring. I'm sure your dinner party partner could turn it into something interesting.<br><br>(And you learn stuff along the way) I find out all sorts of useful information this way. (Such as there are still a lot of people out there made nervous by the idea of their cell phone making random calls). I tend to like listening and asking questions. It helps to feel like you have a prepared script.

Oddly, something I find out with myself and others- you tend to talk more when you are nervous. Get a list of things you want to talk about, and ask questions about it- it makes both you and the other person feel good. And it makes you feel less nervous too. It really could be anything. Just ask some questions. Even if it is about something you think could be boring. I'm sure your dinner party partner could turn it into something interesting.

(And you learn stuff along the way)

]]> By: chris dixon http://cdixon.org/2009/10/06/ask-people-questions/comment-page-1/#comment-3813 chris dixon Tue, 06 Oct 2009 22:29:22 +0000 http://www.cdixon.org/?p=1359#comment-3813 Yes, I think it's best to speak just enough to introduce yourself etc but after that you gain more by listening than talking. Yes, I think it's best to speak just enough to introduce yourself etc but after that you gain more by listening than talking.

]]> By: chris dixon http://cdixon.org/2009/10/06/ask-people-questions/comment-page-1/#comment-3812 chris dixon Tue, 06 Oct 2009 22:28:52 +0000 http://www.cdixon.org/?p=1359#comment-3812 I think Andy Weismann's quote is meant to be very Black Swan. I think Andy Weismann's quote is meant to be very Black Swan.

]]> By: chris dixon http://cdixon.org/2009/10/06/ask-people-questions/comment-page-1/#comment-3811 chris dixon Tue, 06 Oct 2009 22:28:20 +0000 http://www.cdixon.org/?p=1359#comment-3811 I'm often surprised as well. I'm often surprised as well.

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